“So, guys, who do we show respect to first?”
I am sitting on the sidelines of my son’s Jiu Jitsu class. The instructor is teaching the kids the “Characteristics Of A Winning Attitude” which are part of the Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Credo.
And I love it.
This is an awesome question and one which we really should all know the answer to.
The answer is ourselves. If we don’t have self-respect, how can we expect others to respect us?
Respect for one’s self can manifest in a myriad of ways: eating well, getting enough sleep at night, exercising, cultivating healthy relationships and so on.
Self-respect also means allowing ourselves to flourish and create nourishing environments to achieve our dream goals. It means pruning behaviors and relationships that are not in alignment with our healthy, happy-ness making goals.
It means that we owe it to ourselves to seek support, mentors and companions who can elevate us, keeping us on track as we embark on the journey to being the best us we can be in our lives.
We should surround ourselves with people, opportunities, nutrients that draw out the joy and abundance all around us while reminding us to steer clear of struggle and stress based mindsets.
Don’t you want your self-respect to skyrocket?
Just think about what you could create if you gave yourself the support and encouragement you need. Think about how different your relationships would be if you moved through your life, filled with self-confidence, all the while curating meaningful, rich experiences.
I want you to truly think about self-respect and begin reframing your life through this lens. I want to see you flourishing and filled with radiance making self-confidence.
If this conversation is tickling your fancy or making you yearn for some mentoring, give me a shout. It would be my honour to be your guide towards a more prosperous life.
Sometimes don’t you just want things to be straightforward and simple?
My intention today, when I started writing this post was to share a breathing exercise because I wanted to share something with you that:
- was easy and simple to do
- would create some breathing space in your daily life
- help anchor you in your body
- would make you more present to the loveliness of life.
I attempted various approaches, here are a few examples:
“There could be a dozen reasons and more for why we feel stuck or why our “why” isn’t propelling us forward. The “why”I am speaking about is that clear sense of purpose or mission that drives us to take action, overcome any obstacles and makes us feel engaged in our lives with a sense of deep satisfaction…”
Not quite there yet.. It needed something more, so I added –
“Why am I doing this job? Why am I in this relationship? Why do I feel like a failure even though I am at the top of my game?”
At which point I went back to simplicity-
“Simply sit and breathe – find your sweet spot of…”
As you can see things started becoming more complicated than necessary. We all do that. That is, we all make life more fuss-filled, add more flavorings, create rituals and meaning and all the while drifting away from the simplicity of what we intend for ourselves.
It is my opinion that we intend for love and all that flourishes because of it. It is that simple.
So, back to the breathing exercise, I want to share with you simply because I love you and because I want you to connect to the ease of being you in this lovely life. If you are encountering hardships or find yourself struggling to make sense of difficulties in your life, I encourage you to give this exercise a go. It will uplift you.
Before you sit down to do this exercise read through it a few times so you know what to do and when. It is super easy and delightful to do. Here we go.
Find a wonderful place to sit and close your eyes. As your awareness turns inwards say to yourself: “This time is for me to connect with myself, my light and my love. Each breath eases my ability to connect to my mind, heart, and soul.” (Or something close to this that resonates with you) You can say this out loud or within your mind. Repeat it a few times until you feel the essence of what you are saying. Make it real and make it count.
Continue to breathe and direct your mind towards ease and not struggle. Instead of wishing your mind would stop chattering, think how easy it is for your mind to chatter. If you experience discomfort in your body acknowledge how easy it is for you to recognize that discomfort.
With each breath, we want to communicate how easy it is for you to be where you are. As you continue to positively affirm each state you may notice that your mind begins to relax or quieten.
Once this begins to happen try the following positive prompts. Repeat each one several times to yourself:
- “It is easy for me to be peaceful within myself.”
- “It is easy for me to be here.”
- “It is easy for me to connect to life.”
As you repeat the positive prompt give yourself time to feel the positive emotion that goes with the prompt. For example, if you say, “It is easy for me to be peaceful within myself” allow yourself to feel that peaceful energy. Do this with each of the positive prompts.
Continue this exercise until you feel you are ready to stop. It is easy to stop. Just open your eyes and look around. It is easy to look around and breathe at the same time. Allow yourself to connect to and relate to life through this new mindset; that it is easy for you.
Now your turn, was this exercise easy for you to do? What is easy for you to do? Often times, I have heard my son say, “That’s easy for me mama. I can do that.” Think about something that is easy for you to do. What does it feel like to do something that is easy for you? I would love to hear your thoughts and stories on this subject.
And please do share this post with family, friends or colleagues as it may help them to connect to the ease in their lives.
This is the second post on Spring Vitality series. If you missed the previous post here it is: Make Fewer Decisions For A More Streamlined Life.
I was reading Marie Kondo’s, “The Life-Changing Magic Of Tidying Up” whilst waiting for my soup at a cafe and it got me thinking: Do we ever tidy up or de-clutter dreams?
As I continued to the think about this idea, I felt clouds of dreams, some realized and some completely forgotten begin to flood my consciousness. Some of these dreams were long dead, whilst others fluttered around chirping like birds in a Disney animation.
Could a spring cleaning refresh these desire filled-dreams, bringing them to surface where they could be sorted between relevant and unnecessary? Just like clothes, shoes and knick knacks, dreams can clutter our lives without our realizing it; taking up precious space in our minds and bodies.
Having dreams that are floating around without purpose can be analogous to having apps open on an iPhone that are not being used which continue to run and use the battery power. And just as I do with my iPhone – I close the apps I am not using to conserve battery power for the apps I want to use – I want to do the same with old dreams and goals.
These dreams may be written down in journals or as personal statements. Or, they may be living on vision boards or as bucket lists or they may be just floating around in the backwaters of our minds.
It matters not where we have housed them because what we want to bring to these dreams is the clarity of our desire to spring clean and spruce them up so that they are current to our needs and add vitality to our lives.
4 Steps to Spring cleaning old dreams
- Take out old vision boards, personal statements, journals, and bucket lists and go through them. See which ones still resonate with you and make you feel vibrant and which ones zap your energy. Make 2 piles.
- Go through the pile that makes you feel vibrant and fine tooth comb it to see if those dreams truly jazz you up and feel relevant to your growth. Be ruthless with your editing here because we do get attached to dreams – dig deep and get super clear on what you want in your life now.
- Take the pile of vision boards, personal statements, journals etc that you no longer want and chuck them in the garbage or have a little bonfire. Send them on their way with love and appreciation.
- The pile that you have decided to keep, take a look at it and see if it expresses your desires in the most joyous, true way that represents you. If it does, read and connect to these dreams. See how they make you feel and what action steps you can take to make them real. Write down those action steps and follow through.*
There may be some dreams that require you to rethink what you want and why you want those things. For example, if you have been pursuing a certain career or job title and you realize it is making you unhappy, it may behoove you to inquire a little deeper as to why you chose this career path in the first place and whether it still meets your original purpose. It may be time to let go of this dream or, refocus your efforts to make it happen.
If you feel sadness or grief rising at the thought of releasing these dreams (due to associating it to failure for not accomplishing the dreams*). Give yourself some time to reflect on these feelings and then choose to let the feelings go. Cleaning, organizing, editing your life and making decisions about where you are going and who you want to be can be emotionally taxing, so be gentle with yourself.
Once you have completed this exercise step back and see how you feel. Do you sense more space? Clarity? Freedom? Use this new energy and make your dreams become a vibrant, delicious reality.
* If you need help gaining clarity or need support in making your dreams come true. I am here to help you reach that higher ground.
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