Time is not a clock. It is the Tao in disguise.images-1

What is an individual’s experience of time?

What purpose does time serve?

Could we create more time?

What would it be like if we were given the opportunity to develop our own relationship to time? For instance, we didn’t have to obey such rules as: “time to go to work” or  “30 minutes for lunch”?

It started with these questions on the periphery of my awareness that slowly folded in, then unfolded into a series of long pauses. The final ripple to these questions were my thoughts pulsating on the abstract definition of time.

These questions were not entirely new. I have been toying around with the idea of time being an illusion for a long time. This time though, it seemed these questions brought with them experiences of “time depth” (my name for it): vast, endless, unbroken.

I felt myself immersing in layer upon layer. It was as if I was in all time and fully aware of the minutes ticking by.

If I had stayed in that state, I could have poured so much of my being into each moment with precision and intention; it was shocking that it was possible I could dive deeper, remain conscious and experience such fullness.


Time Architecture

Time within our inner consciousness has different rules and that is where a minute can feel days long, or a week-long vacation can seem to pass within the blink of an eye.

How ever we experience reality whether fleeting or languid, it is within our consciousness that the time bending happens.

Time bending means using time to support your life so that you feel you have enough of it to be you no matter where, when or how.  It is by reintegrating our own inner timing/needs that external time (clocks and schedules) becomes an ally.

The truth is that we do know what each moment needs from us and what we need from each experience. We just need to listen for the answer from within.

And this is the biggest reframe for me: to take my time because it is my time/my life – not my job’s, my husband’s, my kid’s or even God’s. I choose how long I take to get ready, or how much time I “wastein dilly dallying.

This doesn’t mean that I am going to be late for meetings or not make dinner in the evening. No.

What it means is that I have the right to spend my time however I like. Sometimes, I may be late for meetings or events because I am so immersed in an experience and that is OK with me.

images-2I have to be honest, I cannot always pass up the opportunity to rejoice in the bounty of beauty that surrounds me: birdsongs, laughter, a conversation, being quiet. These experiences pull me in and I want to be there more than in a future event. Sometimes, it is an insight waiting to be discovered and other times it is my heart wanting to fly.

I love these moments because they make my life so worth living. So, when the fallout happens, ie. being late, or missing the beginning of a movie, I accept it fully as the price for my choices.

This new relationship with time is opening up wealth and prosperity consciousness that I did not fully value before: I take my time doing the things I especially love. For example, watching the breeze move through the trees, or listening to my son’s footsteps as he races around the house.

I feel I really do have all the time in the world. WE ALL DO.

If you’d like to experience and explore time depth, here are my 4 action guides to help support you through this process.

  1. Use Breathing Exercises. any which way you look at breathing changes the way we experience time/reality.My current favourite is the alternate nostril breathing: the beautiful Anuloma Viloma. This exercise rebalances the left and right hemispheres of the brain, clears the mind and generates a sense of positivity throughout the day. (I am going to be exploring the benefits about this in my next blog). Want to try it?
  • Simply Inhale through left nostril closing the right nostril with the thumb
  • Hold the breath by closing both nostrils
  • Exhale through the right nostril whilst closing the left nostril with the ring finger and little finger
  • Inhale through the right nostril whilst keeping the left nostril closed with the ring finger and little finger
  • Hold the breath by closing both nostrils
  • Exhale through the left nostril whilst closing the right nostril with the thumb
  • Repeat a few times. Sit quietly and observe your feelings and thoughts. You may feel more spacious!
  1. Immerse yourself in time richness. Whenever you find yourself running to a meeting or dashing through a to-do list, ask yourself: why am I living like a time-pauper?Stop the chasing, slow down and switch off the emergency button. You have time. Contemplate how would a time-rich person behave in such a situation as yours? Your inquiries may open surprising, new ways to engage with time and schedules.
  1. Give away your time! Spend some time day-dreaming. Idle away the hours. Doing this will help you to reframe your relationship to time. You have time.
  1. Meditation & Mindfulness. Sit down. Observe your thoughts and feelings. Are they mindful or mindless. Nourishing or nagging? Can you become more present ie pour more awareness into the moment? Think of witnessing your thoughts and feelings as a tool that allows you to choose how you want to experience the moments you are in that eventually add up to become your life.

These are just a few ways to shake things up with time.Try them and see how time bends for you. I would love to hear of relationship to time and what changes you have made to create a better quality of life.



previewVery rarely when we are cornered or find ourselves in a foxhole will we choose to dance as a possible solution to the dire straights we are in.

I know it is not logical in the least to think that when facing a life/death situation that putting on Donna Summer is going to help. It probably wouldn’t.

But, thankfully we are not in life/death scenarios every day so we have some wiggle room for creating alternative responses to stressful realities that compose our lives.

We know that Albert Einstein was on to this way back when he said: “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”

The “same thinking” or way of approaching our problems can be changed – has to be changed.

So, that’s where disco or dub, or Beethoven or Beck come in. If we could imagine for a moment, using our whole bodies to address an issue instead of just our minds, we would discover a whole plethora of solutions to any given problem. A daring possibility; to choose stepping outside of “thinking” to find an answer.

I know, I know it sounds foolish, even simplistic to think that dancing could solve real world problems.

But imagine busting out your best disco moves at a parent/teacher conference to soothe misunderstandings, or having the confidence to twerk at a networking event to ease tension or nerves. Imagine, if we gave ourselves the permission to interact in a thousand different ways in any given situation and still achieve our goals and meet the deadlines.

The big leap here is the permission to use our imagination and follow it through.

I think we all forget these fun, amazing, silly but genius parts of ourselves and forfeit them for fitting in and convenience. The genius, the fun, it’s all in there but we need to choose it.

Somewhere in our lives we learned that challenges or difficult situations are resolved through seriousness and intellectual rigor and in turn it has become our default solution finding method.

UGH. The rebel in me says: NO MORE. There have to be other ways to get through dark days and the whims of fate. And there are, we just need to try them out.

Here are some ideas and approaches from my creative vaults.

  1. Big decisions. A big decision needing to be made?  Take all the energy and uncertainty and put into into your dance. Shake loose the fear and judgement.
  2. In a Feud. If you find yourself in a big old row – take a deep breath and strut around; move like Jagger if you have to. Find the humour and don’t take yourself too seriously. Your opponent will have to find someone else to fight with.
  3. Low self-esteem. Don’t believe in yourself, or feeling too self-conscious? Take yourself to a mirror and pull some ugly faces. Stick your tongue out at yourself. Still feeling low? OK, time to bring out the Rocky victory jump… Remember that scene where Rocky runs through the streets and finally makes it up the steps of the Philadelphia Art Museum? Raise your arms and mimic his moves. You’re a champ and don’t forget it!
  4. Uncertainty/doubt. This energy requires a real fun approach because uncertainty and doubt can be so slithery and heavy at the same time. So, roll around on the ground like a log. First one way and then back. Doing this a few times will get you back on a confident track!
  5. Procrastination/inertia. This duo can leave you in never, never land if you’re not careful – so what to do? Pour yourself a big jug of water (cold or hot depending on the level of inertia/procrastination) and throw it at your face. And then smile. That will do the trick. Or, if you are not quite ready for that, or it is too inconvenient, go jump on a trampoline. Moving is your best bet when it comes to this pair!
  6. General seriousness. Think of a great prank to play on yourself. It works every time because you have to get pretty creative to get one over yourself. And if it feels like you are wasting time; so much the better. Be the clown & laugh heartily.
  7. Bad moods. Take it easy. Don’t judge yourself and turn that frown upside down. Smiling (especially from your heart) is quite the revolutionary and evolutionary act. Simply by smiling you can boost your immunity and approach-ability.

Whether you find yourself rolling your eyes or agreeing with me would you be willing to try some of these (genius) techniques for getting out of stuck patterns or emotional cul-de-sacs?

We do not have to live in emotional or behavioral, politically/socially correct cages.

So let’s get the genius juice flowing and throw down some dance moves, unleash spontaneous guffaws, jump victoriously, prank ourselves and find a million ways to light up our lives.

Want to hang out and dance a little more together? Come hang out with me on Facebook and let’s dance!


whoneedstobeoutedIt’s my turn. I want to out myself.

Here it goes!

I am an optimist, my glass is half full, not empty, and I stand for the real estate of JOY.

(Meaning, I want to spread joy and inspire others to embrace their own joy. So much of of our emotional bandwidth is used up by stress, fear, anxiety that the more positive emotions become sidelined and with more frequency becoming ever rare.)

I am easily delighted, ready to giggle, would rather laugh than be skeptical.

I have no desire to wait for people to deserve my love or good intentions.

Everybody is in. It’s just easier.

I know that it serves no purpose to hold back on love or kindness or thoughtfulness. Just like the buds on the trees and bulbs in the ground our joy is waiting to burst forth – so why stop it?

There are within all of us voices of joy, play, gladness – words and exclamations just under the surface of our daily heartbeats.

Can you summon them? Can you feel the rush of excitement within you?

Could you, …would you choose to let out your lightness of being without cause or reason?

Don’t you want to out your joy, your smile? Don’t linger for another moment, come on OUT.

We can be a joyful, caring, loving sorts; easy to be around, filled with light and smiles. And, when we are, it opens new horizons for our hearts. YUM.

Sending you joy!

Come hang out with us on Facebook and OUT YOURSELF.

imagesHere’s a love note from,  Bob Marley. He was OUT.  I just LOVE it.

“When the morning gathers the rainbow
Want you to know I’m a rainbow too.”

Photo Credit: Alexandra Nitsche


I stand for love -- everybody is in.
Listen to the signals of your soul. The future is coming on.
At your core, you are shuddering brilliance.
You can see life stories in a glimpse or in an utterance.
We all have signatures of light, sound and movement...streaming, changing.
Dare to love passionately. Dare to sit with death -- dying thought forms and dreams.
Be moved by your own humanity.
The biggest party in the universe is happening on earth. A complex mix of duality, minerals and atoms firing off in all directions...you... creating your life and the world around you.
How can a part of the universe be apart from the universe? You belong to the whole.
Timing is all about listening to the moment and knowing when it is your turn - To do. To be. To act.
Inside you are searching for something that is apparent all around you. Life is real. Engage.
Now take it apart - all of your ideas, thoughts, visions. Become Naked. FREE
The energy of freedom has to be engaged, expanded and energized. Free your self.
Genetic inheritance does not mean it is your fate to live within the constrains of that signature.
We are on the brink of game change: it is our destiny with immortality.
Love is cosmic intelligence.
Joy is the self on the periphery of cosmic consciousness
Between rock and a hard place? Make the "between" bigger. Take your time stretching this space.
Joy is part giggle, part laughter, part miracle - it is you bursting with life.
Truth can be so uncivil.
There's a purpose to kindness. It is a deeper intelligence at work.
Even in your struggles and sabotages, it is your freedom calling you.
Which future do you belong to?
When was the last time you looked at yourself and thought "I am awake"?

Photos by Anne Staveley